The church does a lot of things well, but helping people find their way through unrelenting suffering is not typically one of them. To my mind, the reason for this bewildering lack of help for those who suffer stems from modern Western Christianity's inaccurate definitions for concepts like suffering, healing, hard circumstances and miracles. Too often we see suffering  as something to be silently endured, never showing other believers just how far our pain grinds down our d

Every survivor must learn to think intentionally. If you don't, your emotions gain too much influence over your view of God and your circumstances. They'll push and pull you all day long while not actually taking you anywhere. To think intentionally, I learned how to use thought models  (sometimes called the CTFAR model). C is for a circumstance  you want to think about intentionally. thought modelsT is the thought you have (or want to have) about that circumstance. F is the